How to talk across differences

Finding Common Ground in Conversation

1. Discover common ground and truthful shared values. 

2. Disrupt disinformation by questioning the motives of the messenger or encouraging source-checking to encourage independent thought.

3. Dream of a better future by reaffirming the truth as an inspiring vision or call to action

Read the full piece (pdf) from Indivisible’s Truth Brigade

With the cultural and political divides common in our communities, many of us struggle with how to talk with friends, family, and anyone who thinks differently. Communication tips:

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How to Talk to People Who Disagree with You Politically

  1. Focus on the people, not the politics

    • Build a relationship before talking politics

    • Don’t take comments personally

    • Share your own relevant experiences

    • Give a relatable hypothetical situation

  2. Find common ground

    • Bond over less polarized issues

    • Be open to listening and understanding

    • Ask questions to understand a different viewpoint

    • Focus on shared beliefs

  3. Stick to the facts and avoid confrontation

    • Stick to information that can be verified

    • Back up your opinions with evidence

    • Limit emotion in discussion

    • Avoid confrontational language

  4. Be an advocate rather than an opponent

    • Adapt conversational style to audience

    • Avoid words that might upset people

  5. Pick your battles

    • Talk about local politics instead of national politics

    • Focus on policy instead of party

    • Avoid hot-button issues

Video and full article at https://mediaengagement.org/research/divided-communities/